I am going to attempt what I assume is something unusual here - pointers on parenting, from my limited experience as a child myself.
Of course there are several self-help books, articles, and social media posts out there advising you on the same, but mine is only a humble attempt at stimulating introspection. Because every child deserves a chance at a happy life. So here goes:
Be there for your child/children from the beginning. It is important to build a rapport and become their pillar of strength at an early age, so that you can tide over the rough teenage years comparatively easily.
Take them travelling from a young age. It doesn't have to be some popular, posh destination, as the media has convoluted the term to be. Anywhere outside the four walls, where they can observe and learn from life in their own way, is ideal. This will also pave the away to inculcate in them a robust physique and an open-mindedness that will go a long way in helping them meander through life.
Do not spoil them either. Not to sound like an old record, but old clichés do still hold true. Boy or girl, if they get whatever they want, they will become truants as grown-ups, which will create trouble for everyone who comes into contact with them. Instead, what is required is gradually leading them into responsibilities that go into running a family as smoothly as possible. Not to mention that inculcating values like good manners, kindness, compassion, perseverance and resilience, to name a few, by being a model yourself (this is important; mere moralizing doesn't help) will mould them into better version(s) of yourselves.
Both parents must take an active part in parenting. Only when the mother and father perform their complementary roles inherent to bringing up a child, with duties unique to each, has the child any hope of becoming a humane person one day.
It is a common sight- mothers struggling to fend for three or more kids in a family that can hardly afford it. Or worse, parents who abandon their children, who kill the girl child, who physically abuse or mentally torture them, who refuse to give up their drug addiction and actually look after their flesh and blood. Now, I accept the fact that no one is perfect. And parents are no exception. They too are only human, like you and me. And I'm aware that the scenarios I stated are only a few from among the multitude. Nevertheless, those of you who have a choice in the matter, please go ahead with the pregnancy if and ONLY when you are physically and mentally prepared to be fully responsible for another life. I cannot stress this enough.It is a fact that children who are unloved become anti-social (to say the least), broken individuals in later years.
It is imperative in the modern scenario that I mention a curb on mobile phone usage. Every time you take the easy way out by handing your phone to a bawling infant, you are impressing upon them that screens are more preferable to people. What would be the case if every child grew up that way? Humanity's existence is already threatened by its ruthless exploitation of nature, and a similar exploitation of technology will only cut our years even shorter. So let the child gaze at the world around and be amazed by its varied sights. Lead them into reading and playing outdoors. Electronic devices will expose them to radiation, making them vulnerable to severe illnesses. Don't let that happen. If you put in a little selfless effort, your child will make you proud one day. And that is something worth looking forward to.
Of course there are several self-help books, articles, and social media posts out there advising you on the same, but mine is only a humble attempt at stimulating introspection. Because every child deserves a chance at a happy life. So here goes:
Be there for your child/children from the beginning. It is important to build a rapport and become their pillar of strength at an early age, so that you can tide over the rough teenage years comparatively easily.
Take them travelling from a young age. It doesn't have to be some popular, posh destination, as the media has convoluted the term to be. Anywhere outside the four walls, where they can observe and learn from life in their own way, is ideal. This will also pave the away to inculcate in them a robust physique and an open-mindedness that will go a long way in helping them meander through life.
Do not spoil them either. Not to sound like an old record, but old clichés do still hold true. Boy or girl, if they get whatever they want, they will become truants as grown-ups, which will create trouble for everyone who comes into contact with them. Instead, what is required is gradually leading them into responsibilities that go into running a family as smoothly as possible. Not to mention that inculcating values like good manners, kindness, compassion, perseverance and resilience, to name a few, by being a model yourself (this is important; mere moralizing doesn't help) will mould them into better version(s) of yourselves.
Both parents must take an active part in parenting. Only when the mother and father perform their complementary roles inherent to bringing up a child, with duties unique to each, has the child any hope of becoming a humane person one day.
It is a common sight- mothers struggling to fend for three or more kids in a family that can hardly afford it. Or worse, parents who abandon their children, who kill the girl child, who physically abuse or mentally torture them, who refuse to give up their drug addiction and actually look after their flesh and blood. Now, I accept the fact that no one is perfect. And parents are no exception. They too are only human, like you and me. And I'm aware that the scenarios I stated are only a few from among the multitude. Nevertheless, those of you who have a choice in the matter, please go ahead with the pregnancy if and ONLY when you are physically and mentally prepared to be fully responsible for another life. I cannot stress this enough.It is a fact that children who are unloved become anti-social (to say the least), broken individuals in later years.
It is imperative in the modern scenario that I mention a curb on mobile phone usage. Every time you take the easy way out by handing your phone to a bawling infant, you are impressing upon them that screens are more preferable to people. What would be the case if every child grew up that way? Humanity's existence is already threatened by its ruthless exploitation of nature, and a similar exploitation of technology will only cut our years even shorter. So let the child gaze at the world around and be amazed by its varied sights. Lead them into reading and playing outdoors. Electronic devices will expose them to radiation, making them vulnerable to severe illnesses. Don't let that happen. If you put in a little selfless effort, your child will make you proud one day. And that is something worth looking forward to.
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